The You and Me, Mum programme was developed in 2007 by Women’s Aid Federation Northern Ireland in partnership with Women’s Aid groups. The programme was profiled as a standard of best practice at the ‘Raising the Standards’ conference in Guernsey (October 2007).
The programme helps mothers who have experienced domestic violence to explore:
- their role as mothers
- the impact of domestic violence upon their child(ren), and
- the impact of domestic violence upon their relationship with their child(ren).
It is a ten week programme which is delivered in a non threatening, non judgemental environment and aims to promote the ethos of self help and empowerment.
What women say about You and Me, Mum
My relationship with my kids has improved a great deal because I now make time for us rather than the three of us spending time in separate rooms.
I know I am making a better connection with their feelings and confusion. Before I didn’t fully realise that their feelings were, so often, similar to my own.
It has meant a great deal as it has given me coping skills in how to deal with different situations. We all get on better and are looking forward to new things.
I now realise my kids were behaving the way they were, not, as I had been told, because I was a bad mother, but because of the unstable environment they had been living in. I myself have strengthened since the programme began.